How To Be An Adult

What age are you supposed to have your life together? I’m asking for a mate.

I’m in my mid twenties and seem to be having an existential crisis nearly every day, mainly because my life isn’t going as I expected. If you had asked young and naive Elle a couple of years ago how her life was going to go, I’m sure that she would have it all planned out. But life can really be a bitch.

Every day. No exaggeration, every single day, is a constant struggle between thinking to myself “You’re young. Do whatever the hell you want. Spend all your money. Go travel the world. You’ll find your calling in life soon. You’re not supposed to have it all together yet.” And then there are days where I think to myself “You are a big woman to not have your life together, to have no stability, to have no direction, to have no plan, to still think it’s okay to go day by day.”

How do you reach the safe zone? Can someone teach me to find tranquility? Surely I’m not the only one in this position…

I have people around me who have been in and out of job after job and haven’t found their calling yet, people who have made their stamp in their industry and are flourishing and I have people around me who are flourishing socially and with their relationships and building families. Where do I fit in? In who’s footsteps am I supposed to follow? Why is there not a book called [Insert name here] this is how your adult life is supposed to pan out?

Why the hell do they ask “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” in job interviews? Nobody can predict that. It’s a trick question. You can hope, dream, fantasise, wish and plan all you like, but sometimes life just doesn’t work out that way. Well… I’ve decided to be a badass and scrap the 5 year plan and go for monthly goals. I’ve been setting myself 2 goals a month and so far I’ve been trying new foods (I’m very picky), start new habits,Β  And that’s all in the space of a couple of months. I’m not setting myself up for failure with un-achievable goals, like save 5k in 1 month or lose 3 stone at the gym. Set yourself small goals people. You may not become a well put together adult over night, but it’s a step in the right direction.

Basically … in short, I’m in the same boat as when I started. Still knowing fuck all about where I’m going or what I’m doing. However, I’m making small steps towards making myself a better and more cultured person in hopes that my calling will come to me.

If you thought this was going to be one of those self help blogs with a happy ending, you’re on the wrong blog babe.

Have any of you got any tips for me or other on steps to creating a better you? Pretty please?

XOXO Gossip Elle

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. John Aiwone says:

    Damn Elle, you hit me when you talk about it being difficult to have a 5 year plan . Wasn’t sure what to expect from this post not gonna lie but it was worth the read. I think one of the purposes in life is to find yourself and what you want and that could happen at any point in life. This is why I hate societal expectations such as being married by 30 cos what if someone doesn’t want to be married at 30 but at 40 instead or not married altogether. Everyone is on their different journeys to adulthood and shouldn’t be pressured to conform to a certain standard that’s ultimate set by a group of individuals themselves.

    Good to see you back on the blog btw! Signing off *mic drop*

    Johnny | Johnny’s Traventures
    https://johnnystraventures.com

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    1. ellemacuk says:

      Hey Johnny, firstly, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post. I 100000% agree with you that we shouldn’t feel pressured to live up to expectations and have sell by dates on milestones in life. Not everyone wants the same outcomes in life and that should be respected.
      Much Love!

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